Who Is Chandler?
(First published on CaringBridge, December 2018)
If you are reading this, it means you care for Chandler, even though maybe you've never even met Chandler. So I wanted to take a minute to give you just a snapshot of my amazing son.
First, I will let you know that road rash, broken bones, and stitches are nothing new to Chandler. At less than three years old, he jumped out of the toy box and broke his collarbone. A few years later, he rode off a skateboard ramp and sustained a concussion and stitches under his chin. Once when I was making mac n' cheese, I said to him, "Chandler, don't touch the stove." Such perfect bright red concentric circles on the palm of his little curious hand. When he was about 9 years old, he wanted to see how red he could get his butt, so he put it on the glass door of the fireplace. The doctor said he'd never really seen anything like that before. One time I heard chatter from his room and walked in to find him on top of the roof preparing to jump off on his new pogo stick. All this time, I thought he obeyed me when I said, "No, Chandler, you cannot jump off the roof." This week his brother informed me that he did ultimately jump off the roof. Chandler's response when the pogo stick broke--"It didn't work." He has sustained a cracked cervical vertebrae body surfing at the wedge, bruised ribs from doing tricks on his BMX bike, a bite from a baby rattler that he says looked like a stick. I'm not sure why he wouldn't have put it down after he discovered it wasn't a stick, but there you go. His frequent comment to his brother Chance when he runs to the bathroom to clean up his routine road rash is, "Don't tell mom." I could go on and on, and that's just the injuries I've been privy to. His brothers and friends spare me from the frightening details of many of his exploits.
Chandler engages life with his body, mind, and spirit. He is loyal, funny, a great dancer, athletic, a deep thinker, adventurous, protective, generous, and never meets a stranger.
I knew he had a lot of friends, but I never understood the impact Chandler had on those friends and what he meant to them until this week. Chandler makes everyone feel special. I have a whole new perspective on my son now.
If you know him well, you know he answers to Chandler Man, Chan Man, Chili Dog, Chan....and probably several others I'm not aware of. For some people, one simple name just can't capture it all.
My boy has the sweetest heart. I have to tell you that he asked me to marry him when he was about four. It didn't work out because I was already married to his dad. When he was five or so and working out big-time theological concepts in his little mind, he said, "Mom, I don't think people mean it when they say they have Jesus in their heart, cuz Jesus has us in His heart." Jesus has Chandler in His heart and in His hands.